bull crap. i’m calling bull crap on all your excuses as to why you’re not happy.

you don’t have your dream car, dream house. you don’t have a boyfriend or children. you don’t have enough money or enough of anything… but boy oh boy, when you get those things you’re sure to be HAPPY.

bull. freaking. crap.

happiness is NOT defined by stuff, or things, or even other people. happiness is not measured in what you have or what you want to have. Jay Shetty (@jayshetty) says, “Happiness is not a checklist. A dream job, a fast car, a good home, even love, mean nothing at all if you have not yet found a way to feel full and content in your own mind and heart.”


this is the most profound thing i’ve learned in 2018.

other people are not making me unhappy, i am making myself unhappy by allowing myself to agree with their negativity. by allowing myself to be aggravated when something doesn’t go my way or when someone says something i disagree with. i am LETTING these people steal my joy.

happiness is only achieved by choosing to love who you are and who you want to become.

choosing to love where you are right now and where you will be someday soon.

happiness is CHOOSING to be content in the now, and if you don’t like whats happening right now then CHANGE IT.

the second most profound thing i’ve learned in 2018 is that when i don’t like where i am at in my life i can change where i’m going.

you don’t like your job? quit. find a better one that you love more. or find a hobby that gets you through the job you don’t like.

you don’t like the relationship your in? end it. it’s only creating more pain by staying in it.

you don’t love the degree you’re seeking? change your major.

you don’t enjoy the city you currently live in? move.


and yes, i know. its not this simple if you are married and have a family to consider when you make certain decisions. but i am a firm believer that even when you’re in a relationship you are still you and your partner is still them. it is two people coming together to be BETTER, not to be ONE. you are still your own person, so go be that person.

whatever is making you unhappy is YOUR problem. so stop the bull crap excuses. stop blaming other people for YOU being unhappy.

honestly, its your own damn fault.

the choice is yours. you stay in your unhappiness or you decide to make a change.

“respect yourself enough, to walk away from anything that no longer serves you, grows you, or makes you happy.”

everything has a time and a place. some things were only meant to serve you for a certain period of time. some relationships were only meant to help you grow to a certain point.

and that’s okay.

its okay to outgrow people, its okay to give yourself permission to move on to the next thing that will MAKE YOU HAPPY.

but you have to give yourself the permission to change.

you have to give yourself the permission to be happy.

it’s hard work, it is a constant choice of not letting the little things annoy you, having A LOT of patience, and always choosing joy over every thing.

respect yourself enough to choose happiness. you deserve it.


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