Remember when you dreamed for the life you currently have?
4 years ago I came home from my very first trip to Naples and said, “One day I’m moving there!” Today I live in Florida. The dream came true! Yet I am the first one to crave the next dream I have lined up instead of basking in the one I’ve accomplished.
I wish my blog was bigger. I wish I had a bigger following. I wish I could create more content.
All things that will happen organically as I choose consistency over the easy way out. But, if I keep chasing the “next great thing” or “the next 1,000 followers” I miss out on what’s right in front of me. The opportunity to serve the people who are already at my table. The followers and readers I already have, the people who support me day in and day out.
For so long I served the people in the crowd, the people who I wanted to be at my table, supporting me. The whole time I was ignoring the people behind me, the people already sitting at my table, waiting for me to serve them. Whether there are 10 people at that table or 9,000, they are at my table because they believe in me, those are the people I need to focus on.
I focus on the people I wish loved me- and I know I’m not the only one.
I spend so much energy focusing on the people I wish loved me, the people I wish approved of me, the people I wish wanted to be apart of my life.
I recently discovered that me spending time WISHING they would accept me is just wasted energy. I am wasting so much energy on the 1% of people who don’t care to be apart of my life. AND, why would I want them to be apart of my life if they don’t even want to be apart of it?
Jay Shetty states, “Your value does not decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth”
When we start to see the value in ourselves, we start to discover the people around us who see value in us.
See we need to transition our thinking to focusing less on the people who don’t care and more on the people who already care. The people who want to cheer us on. The people who are already in our corners. The people sitting at our table, listening intently as we announce our next big dream. And once we speak that dream into fruition, they are the ones sitting at the table helping us plan, execute, all while screaming in support of YOU.
Friends, THOSE ARE YOUR PEOPLE! The people that want your dreams to work so badly that they will do anything to keep you from talking yourself out of it. The people who keep you accountable and never let you quit. The people who show up, even when you don’t want them too- those are your people.
So start showing up to your table, start looking around at who’s sitting there ready to listen, and then start serving your people.
Let’s chase our dreams. Let’s go for the things that scare us. Let’s put our all into the things that set our souls on fire.
Stop telling yourself you can’t do it, you’re wasting time. Stop telling yourself it will never work, how will you know if you never try? Stop telling yourself you can’t make it because “its already been done.” Stop believing the lies you’re telling yourself.
You’re worth more than those thoughts you’re ALLOWING yourself to believe. You’re worth more than what society is telling you that you can do. You’re worth more than the limits you put on yourself.
It’s time to start owning our attitude. It’s time to start deciding what we allow to affect our moods. It’s time to start owning our joy.
See, we allow people to steal our joy. WE GIVE THEM THAT PERMISSION. But that’s just the thing, you do not have give them permission to steal your joy. You can choose to say no, you’re not allowed to take what is MINE. You can choose to take ownership of your joy and decide that people are not going to have an affect on your attitude.
OKAY, but notice… IT’S ALL ON YOU. It’s on you to chase your dreams. It’s on you to stop telling yourself you CAN’T chase those dreams. It’s on you to choose to believe you’re worthy of what you were made to do. It’s on you to starting owning your attitude. It’s on you to not LET OTHER PEOPLE STEAL YOUR JOY. IT’S ALL ON YOU!
So YOU have to decide today what you’re going to do, how you’re going to act, what you will believe. NO ONE IS IN CHARGE OF YOUR ATTITUDE, YOUR DREAMS, YOUR WORTH, YOUR JOY- BUT YOU!!!! IT’S ALL ON YOU!
What…? Kassidy you are the most inspiring blogger I know why are you telling me I might not make it?
Because you might not make it to where you THINK you are going, but you will make it to where you’re suppose to be going. I’m sure you’ve heard the saying, “If you want to make God laugh, tell him your plans.” This is exactly what I am referring too. God gives us audacious dreams and asks us to chase them, but sometimes our reason for chasing the ultimate goal is not the actual reason he put the dream on our hearts.
When I originally started blogging a little over a year and a half ago, I had no idea it would lead to me starting my own small business. See that’s the funny thing, he gives you one dream so that a million others can flourish within you. If you listen to the dream he’s laid on your heart, you have no idea what you’re capable of. It could very well be the beginning of something way bigger than what you planned. But you’ll never know that unless you take the leap to follow your dreams.
As seen on my Instagram a few weeks ago, “Those who don’t jump, will never fly!” You have to be willing to jump off a few bridges, fall down and get back up, and get through the muddy waters to chase your dream. You have to accept it’s going to be messy and not work out the way that YOU plan for it too. But that’s the whole reason for dreams!!!!! They seem impossible until you achieve the dream and realize it was possible!! Dreams will never work out the way you plan them too, but they will always lead you to something better even when it seems like it is impossible.
My favorite pump up song right now is “Impossible; It’s Possible” from Cinderella. THIS SONG HYPES ME UP!! Like SERIOUSLY. Have you ever really listened to the lyrics of this song?!
“Impossible! Impossible for a plain yellow pumpkin to become a golden carriage. Impossible for a plain country bumpkin and a prince to join in marriage. And four white mice will never be four white horses. They will!! Such fol-de rol and fiddle dee dee of courses! Impossible! But the world is full of zanies and fools, Who don’t believe in sensible rules! And won’t believe what sensible people say! And because these daft and dewey eyed dopes keep building up impossible hopes, Impossible things are happening every day. Look! It’s possible for a plain yellow pumpkin to become a golden carriage. It’s possible! For a plain country bumpkin and a prince to join in marriage. And four white mice are easily turned to horses Such fal de rah and fiddle dee dee of courses! Quite possible! It’s possible!“
The beginning of the song Cinderella has the mindset that it is IMPOSSIBLE for a pumpkin to turn into a carriage or that she would ever end up with a prince… but then Fairy Godmother convinces her that it is POSSIBLE! “Because these daft and dewey eyed dopes keep building up IMPOSSIBLE HOPES, impossible things are happening EVERY DAY!“ DO YOU UNDERSTAND WHAT SHE IS SAYING HERE?!
BECAUSE PEOPLE KEEP TELLING US THINGS ARE IMPOSSIBLE, IMPOSSIBLE THINGS ARE HAPPENING EVERY DAY!!!!
THESE DAFT AND DEWEY EYED DOPES ARE FUELING DREAMERS FIRES!
They keep telling us our dreams are impossible and we keep pursuing them until they are POSSIBLE. Until they are our reality! THAT IS WHAT DREAMERS DO! We do not give up because someone says it’s impossible, NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE. NOTHING. And if you do not believe me, Jesus was raised from the dead. Friends, NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE. It’s just not. No dream you have, no goal you set. Nothing is impossible.
So stop telling yourself it’s impossible. YOU, my fellow dreamer, are no daft and dewey eyed dope, YOU my dear friend, are a dreamer. And dreamers, DO NOT GIVE UP. THEY DO NOT BELIEVE IN THE WORD IMPOSSIBLE. And just like the song ends,
Tell yourself It’s possible until you believe it. And never stop dreaming.
“Well, there’s one thing: they can’t order me to stop dreaming” – Cinderella
Don’t you dare give up on yourself. Don’t you dare give up on your dream. Don’t you dare believe that you are not enough. Don’t you dare think that you aren’t made for more.
Do not give up on the person you’re becoming. She is worth it. You are worth it. Do not give up.
Why are WE always the first to give up on ourselves, yet we will fight tooth and nail for a relationship we want to work out? Focus on you and the rest will fall into place. Focus on who you want to be, where you want to be, and WHY you want to be there and everything else will fall into place.
Why is such an important question in life. Why do certain things happen? Why do people pass away? Why are we alive? Why am I here? Why do I choose to chase my dreams?
If you cannot define your ‘why‘ your dream will never come into fruition. It just won’t, or matter of fact, it can’t. Because when you are in a low place during the journey to your dream, your why is what forces you to keep going. Your why is what tells you it will all be worth it. Your why is the back bone of your dream. Humans cannot live without their spines, your dream cannot live without its why.
So when the dream gets tough, when you feel like giving up, Don’t you dare do it. Don’t you dare think it’s okay to give up on yourself – remember my definition of failure? When you stoptrying. NEVER stop trying, NEVER stop going after the thing that sets your soul on fire.
The great Walt Disney sums up chasing your dreams as simple as this;
Lately I’ve been changing how I go about running my Instagram account. Normally I am very engaged, but I’ve decided to dive in EVEN deeper into engagement. Like what if I actually knew my followers personally? How could that change how this platform is used?
I’ve been sharing different profiles that I feel best represent what they are passionate about and I have been hopping into DM’s to tell people how amazeballs they are.
AND GUESS WHAT!
Social media is SO MUCH MORE fun when you actually connect with the people you are following instead of staring at a bunch of numbers that mean ABSOLUTELY NOTHING.
During the process of connecting with all of these fun Instagramer’s I decided I wanted there to be a common theme during each conversation I have. I am a very intentional person, so my favorite thing to do is to go into conversations with a set intention. I decided that somewhere during the conversation I would ask this person, “What is your dream?”
I’ve received a variety of responses. Some, know the answer right away. Some, are LIVING their dream but dumbing it down because it doesn’t sound as cool as being a pro football player or an American Idol Winner. GIRLFRIEND, you are to NEVER dumb down your dream because it is not as fancy as someone else’s, it is YOUR dream for a reason, IT. IS. YOURS. Others, simply say they have no idea because they have never been asked that question before. WHAT! YOU HAVE NEVER BEEN ASKED WHAT YOUR DREAM IS BEFORE? What kind of world do we live in that we have stopped asking people about their DREAMS!?
We live in a world where people go to work because that is what everyone else does.
But what if you don’t want to go to work? What if you don’t want to work? I know, you’re thinking I’m ABSOLUTELY insane. But here is my honest truth. I DO NOT WANT TO WORK. NOPE. I WANT TO DO WHATEVER I WANT EVERY SINGLE DAY. YES, WHATEVER I WANT. I want to live my dream because I won’t even be able to call it work. That is because I love it so insanely much IT IS NOT WORK TO ME. (Here’s where you’re like, “omg this little millennial, if only she knew the real world!”)
But I do know the real world. The real world was shown to me at 20 years old, when I had to leave my brother at the hospital, dead, after 3 years of fighting cancer. After 3 years of me making adjustments to my young life to accommodate cancer, the ‘real world’ took him away. The real world showed me what it’s like to suffer PTSD after I ran for my life during a mass shooting. It showed me what it’s like to be heart broken over depression because you feel like you have no purpose in this world. I know the real world, I just refuse to live in it.
I’m going to live in my own version of the ‘real world’ It’s my version. It’s filled with light, positivity, and joy. I wake up everyday and do things I LOVE doing while making an income, and then maybe other days I wake up and go back to sleep BECAUSE I CAN. That’s my version of the real world. That’s my dream.
Friends, maybe you’re reading this thinking ‘HELL YES‘ and you relate to every word I say. Or maybe you’re reading this and you’re like, “This girl is going to fail, be homeless, and probably end up dead somewhere.” That’s fine, I would rather take the risk than never know what I COULD HAVE done had I discovered my potential. OR MAYBE, you are sitting here reading this with a nice warm cup of coffee in your hand and this is pulling at your heart… you’re wondering, could I ACTUALLY chase my dream? Could I leave the worlds version of ‘the real world’ to create my own version of the real world?
HELL FREAKING YES SWEET HONEY CHILD, YOU CAN. IF YOU HAVE A DREAM IN YOUR HEART AND YOU DO NOT CHASE IT, YOU ARE BEING SELFISH. Think about it, you are reading this blog and being affected by my words. Yet had I decided to never start this blog a year and a half ago because I was TOO SCARED, you would never be reading these inspiring words. That would have been selfish of me. God gave me this talent for a reason and he calls me to step into the light and to share it with his people. And I believe that he gave you a talent that is 100% unique to you and you are doing a disservice not only to you, but to the people around you to keep it to yourself.
Decide today, to create the version of the real world that you wish to see.
I was over the ‘real world’ version of Instagram. I was over the toxic, fake relationships. I was over keeping up with numbers and people who had no true interest in my content. So what did I do? I changed my version of the Instagram world to what I WANTED IT to be. Now it is an app I can go onto with joy, I can speak LIGHT into my followers, because they actually care about my content. Then I can go to my friends (YES, MY FRIENDS NOT JUST MY FOLLOWERS – THEY ARE MY FRIENDS TOO!) and support what they are doing! THIS IS THE KIND OF INSTAGRAM WORLD I WANT TO BE APART OF! BUT IT WAS NOT OUT THERE! SO I CREATED IT, I FOUND PEOPLE TO JOIN ME AND WE CREATED THE COLLABORATION WE WANTED AND SAID SCREW YOU TO COMPETITION!
Decide today, that you will answer the question, what is your dream? And then, decide to ask someone else, what their dream is.
Us dreamers, WE HAVE TO STICK TOGETHER. We have to encourage others that their dreams are possible. I’m done living in a cookie cutter world that tells me I can’t chase my dreams. GOD BUILT ME FOR THESE DREAMS! HE LAID ME ON THIS EARTH AND ASKED ME TO FOLLOW THE DREAMS HE PUT IN MY HEART! No more will I except the fact that I need to be ordinary. I am extraordinary and that is exactly who I intend to be every single day of my life.