bad days

Yesterday was a really bad day.

Sometimes things just don’t add up, you think you have it all figured out until suddenly you just don’t. Suddenly you feel lost, that life is slipping through your fingers.

I struggle with feeling guilty on bad days.
Because I have been through the WORST days imaginable, like holding my brothers hand as he died, I feel guilty for FEELING the bad day. In reality, the day he died sucked and yesterday also sucked. There is no way to weigh one day more than the other because at the end of it all I struggled on both days. I do believe bad days happen for a reason, their breeding better days. They are making you stronger and willing you into the human you’re meant to become. But that doesn’t make them suck any less.

I talked on my Thursday Thoughts Live (@sassandkass) this past week about embracing the suck. Often times we try to either solve the suck or ignore it. But what if we just sat in the suck? What if we just allowed ourselves to embrace the things that are stressing us out and causing us to have a bad day?
If we choose to reflect on life, the good, the bad, the ugly, we may learn that the bad days are building better days and the good days are building greater days.

the girl in the pink jacket

I’m a self-proclaimed fashionista.
I usually fall in love with bold styles and bright colors.
As my taste in clothing has evolved I’ve realized that I enjoy being in statement pieces that force people to turn in my direction.
This pink jacket is no exception, it is loud, furry, and all things extraordinary.
I bought it for my trip back to Vegas during Christmas time. Several times during my airport trips I overheard comments like, “the girl in the pink jacket”. Eventually I started laughing because they were obviously talking about me, but I never could hear what they were saying after “the girl in the pink jacket”. I obviously loved the attention, but I realized that there is so much more to being “the girl in the pink jacket”.

It’s about being an example in society. Being an influencer, a leader, a statement maker. It’s about being bold and being brilliant. Knowing your worth and identifying others worth. Having confidence in who you are and who you will become. It’s about standing a little taller when someone notices you as “the girl in the pink jacket”.

The next time someone notices you, don’t just accept it, embrace it.

Often times when someone compliments us, we say something along the lines of “oh stop”, “no way”, or “yours is better”. Instead of just saying thank you. Instead of just being grateful for the fact someone noticed you.

It’s time we start accepting compliments. It’s time we start appreciating when someone notices us, when someone takes the time out of their day to make OUR sun shine a little brighter.

I’m proud to be the girl in the pink jacket.
I hold my head high when I am wearing something that stands out.
After-all, why fit in when you were born to stand out?

Rise Up

I have this odd habit of hearing beautiful words, typing them into the Notes section of my phone, and never giving credit to those who spoke them. Whenever I’m feeling bored I go into my Notes App and read through the latest and greatest words, it’s where I find all of my inspiration for my writing.

Ironically one word continues to pop up when I go through my Notes, the word RISE. I’ve been hearing this word since the start of the year. First I saw the Rachel Hollis movie, I then heard it on some podcasts, read about the word in books, and even fell in love with the song “Rise Up”.

I never took any notice of it until recently. I was thinking about my life and the circumstances I’ve been through and thought to myself, “I constantly rise”. Even when I have no idea what I’m doing, even when I’m broken, even when I have no where else to go, I rise.

I get up and I face the next thing headed my way.
When Cooper was diagnosed with cancer I told myself that his fight was preparing me for something worse. Then he died. I told myself the same thing once he passed, this is not the worst thing that will happen to you.
I do this because I believe I should allow those circumstances to PREPARE me for whats coming next.
After all, losing my brother to cancer at 20 is not going to be the only bad thing that happens to me in my life.
I had to teach myself to rise up.
I had to embrace the struggle and RISE UP.

I could have let his passing defeat me. I could have gone numb and completely ignored what happened. But I didn’t. I chose to not only work through the loss, but to be vulnerable to help other people heal.

The point I am trying to make is, you can choose to let your struggles defeat you or you can choose to rise above them and GROW.

You were not created to sit in quick sand.
You were created to RUN INTO ADVENTURE. Elliot Bisnow once said, “Adventures only happen to the adventurous”. By rising up, you are choosing to be adventurous. You are choosing to change your destiny.

I will choose to rise.
I will choose to be better than I was yesterday, to learn from my mistakes, to create joy.
TO RISE UP.

Are you rising up out of your circumstances? Are you choosing adventure?

“You can fear everything and run, or you can fear everything and rise”

YOU

Lets talk about you.

You beautiful, mysterious, courageous human.

You have conquered the unimaginable and continue to climb the mountain of life without looking down. You have the persistence of a cheetah hunting for its prey.

Life’s been hard for you. You’ve been hurt, entangled with fear and bitterness.

But still, you rise up. You blossom into the most beautiful version of you.

You don’t even realize it do you? How astonishingly amazing you are. How WORTHY you are to be in this world. How this world NEEDS you?

You offer something to this world that is completely unique.

There is only one of you.

YOU HAVE TO BE WHO YOU ARE MEANT TO BE.
YOU HAVE TO DO WHAT YOU WERE CALLED TO DO! 

Sister, stop sitting around complaining about your life. Take control, go out and get what you want out of YOUR life. You only get one, very short, life. It was not meant to be lived worrying about losing weight, being rich, or if the guy at work likes you. Life is meant to be lived.

You have to go out and find the thing that sets your soul on fire and do more of it. You have to work at it every day, even when its hard, you have to keep going. You have to remind yourself of your WHY and learn HOW you can get there.

Girlfriend, you have to learn that if you don’t start choosing to taking care of yourself FIRST, then you will always be last.
YOU HAVE TO DECIDE TO CHOOSE YOURSELF, NO ONE DECIDES THAT FOR YOU.

You deserve to choose yourself.
You deserve to live a life you LOVE.
You deserve to deeply believe in yourself.
You deserve to feel confident, beautiful, and LOVED.

But that all starts with you.

But I’m closer than I was yesterday.

My latest post titled “I hate running” was all about perspective, about choosing to see the positive by starting your day off with something hard, for me I chose running.

I’ve struggled with goals because I am the type of person that likes to see the results right away. I want to take a face mask off and have a clear complexion, work out once and have a six pack, write one blog and then be interviewed by Ellen. You get where I’m coming from right? I want immediate satisfaction. But every personal development guru will tell you, nothing happens over night. All high performers work years to finally hit the jackpot and we are no different friends, we have to put in the work.

It’s been hard training for this 5k and reminding myself I won’t be able to run the full 5k tomorrow, I will just be able to run a little bit more each day. The same goes for my blog, I started it in May of 2018 and have been blessed to see growth, but I can’t expect to have millions of people reading it when I just started out. I need to focus on the little victories, adding a half a mile to my distance, speeding up, focusing on the followers and readers I currently have instead of serving people who don’t know my content yet.

I need to take time to be gracious and remind myself the goal is always to be better than I was yesterday.

I need to remember that I’m closer to my goals than I was yesterday.

If I put in the work each day, eventually all those days will add up to big results. But I have to work hard and show up every single day. Even when I don’t want too.

Maybe you’re working towards a goal in your life or just a healthier lifestyle. Maybe its a dream or just to be more organized. Here’s a little reminder that things don’t happen over night. You need to WORK. WORK. WORK. You need to work when your brain says you don’t want too. You need to show up to the spin class when your body says no. You need to write the blog post when you aren’t feeling creative. Because one day after all that work, you’ll see the results, and you’ll feel damn proud.

Just remember, today you are closer than you were yesterday, and tomorrow you will be closer than you were today.

Progress not perfection.