The Shot I won’t be missing

Hi my wonderful Gracious & Grateful Tribe!!!!

It has been a HOT minute since we chatted!
Happy Holidays! Happy New Year! Happy Every Holiday Ever Celebrated!

I took a break from my blog around Thanksgiving to focus on my shop– I ended the year with some pretty astounding sales, I am so grateful to all of YOU who made the boutique such a success this year! It’s pretty crazy to think it’s just the beginning of this business. It is thanks to YOU, my Gracious & Grateful Sisters that I achieved my Black Friday goal, and for that… If you make it to the end of this blog post, I have a special THANK YOU for you!!! Don’t forget to read the end of the post!

I hope your 2020 New Year Resolutions are in full swing! I want to encourage you to check out this podcast by Trent Shelton, who explains why New Year STANDARDS are better than New Year goals. I love how he explains that standards are things that will stay with us for the rest of our lives, rather than goals in which we achieve and potentially move on from. We want our lives to be consistent, a life in which we achieve something and move on to something even bigger always having the standard we set in the past behind us to keep us moving forward.

With that being said, every year I enjoy setting my standards. I enjoy finding new tasks I do not believe I can accomplish and then proving myself wrong. At the beginning of 2019 I set the goal to run a 10k, I was pretty sure I was not going to be able to run the whole thing, but proved myself wrong and then set the new standard for myself that I AM A RUNNER! Then their are the unexpected dreams that we come across mid year and decide to chase- like starting my online boutique. That was definitely not on the list at the beginning of the year, but by the end it became the thing I am most proud of!

2020 is here and so are the new standards we are choosing to set for ourselves as the year continues. I am sure many of you have fitness goals, career goals, and even goals to turn your hobby into your career!

I made a vision board with one of my best friends and as we were cutting out images and quotes for our boards I came across one that is now in the dead center of my board, “We do not change the world when we whisper, we change it when we roar.”

I cannot expect to change the world by whispering, if I am going to change it, I have to roar.

So here we go, Kassidy’s 2020 STANDARDS!

In the year 2020, Kassidy WILL:

So what is the thing on the list I feel I am most likely to achieve? Running a half marathon, I had a great 2019 training for the 10k and I know it’s only up from here. What’s the thing I feel I am LEAST likely to achieve on that list? Spending more time working on my special project. Why? Because I am scared. That is the only excuse I have for you, but I will think of a million excuses to convince myself NOT to work on this project. Simply because I am scared I will fail, that the project I am working on will never be good enough, that it and I will suck.

BUT! Guess what? I am allowed to suck.
I am allowed to take as many tries as I need to step into the cold water to eventually be swimming in it- but it’s going to take some time before I believe I can start swimming in that cold water. Rachel Hollis says there is no such thing as “the first perfect try” you must try and then fall over and stand up again and try again, because if you never do you will regret that you never tried in the first place.

I have two requests from you, my Gracious & Grateful Tribe- my friends, my family, my people.
First, Would you pray for me as I work on one of the many projects God has laid on my heart? For me to have the courage to create the bold new things God has asked his faithful servant to prepare for you? For encouragement as I go about this year completely different than all the rest?

Second, and this one is a fun one– as I mentioned, This year I want to do 12 things that will fulfill 12 things other people wished they could have done before they died. Be it small or large. I need some ideas of things you know your family members wished they would have done before they went to Heaven. I also want some ideas of things YOU would want to do before you die. I already have some ideas but I need some help coming up with even MORE! I am hoping to do one thing a month and document it for you all to follow along my 2020 adventure.

So here I am, shaking in my Target running shoes as I write this- thinking about publishing it! I’m not sure why these things scare me so much as they do, but at the same time I feel so sure in the fact that I have to do them. I have to do the things that scare me. I have to step out of my comfort zone and be a MAGNATE for my community, for ME.

If you are not scared of the things you intend on chasing this year, it is my hope that you re-evaluate what you’re chasing. It is my hope that you choose the things that challenge you. It is my hope that you remember that this is your ONE life- this is all you have, right here, right now.

You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.
So shoot your shot.

“Take the first step toward the rest of your life”
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Because you showed up for me as a tribe, I want to show up for you! If you’re reading this blog and decide to shop Gracious & Grateful make sure to use the code THANKS20 you’ll receive 20% off your entire purchase at checkout! Thank you for always supporting a girl with big dreams!

Childhood Cancer Awareness Month

September is Childhood Cancer Awareness Month.

I’ve been avoiding talking about this month because although I used to bring awareness to childhood cancer like it was my second religion, moving and finding my own space in the world has allowed me to distance myself from the advocate side of childhood cancer.
It is not that I do not want to be an advocate for the children fighting this horrific disease, because I am an advocate each and every day. What you have to understand is that sometimes, well actually ALL the time, advocating for the cause that KILLED your brother, is difficult. It hurts. It brings out my post traumatic stress disorder more than any other month.

The honest truth is I don’t want to spend my days focusing on the disease that killed my brother.
But I do want a cure so that no one has to go through what I’ve been through.
It’s a little bit of a give and take situation- I want to give support, but not have it take all my energy as I remember that my brother is dead.

So maybe it’s selfish? But honestly, grief is selfish. I am focusing on MY feelings about losing Cooper, how I view Cooper since he is gone, and what I have lost.

The thing is, childhood cancer still scares me. You would think after losing my brother to the disease I would be able to distance myself. But actually childhood cancer is in the back of my mind constantly. When I am with the babies I watch, the numbers of kids diagnosed each day runs through my head. When I think about my future, having children, the “what if’s” of childhood cancer come creeping up.
And I know your solution as you’re reading this- “Well Kassidy, you can’t live in fear” – You’re right, but you’ve also probably never seen a pediatric unit on Christmas morning, a child get poked with a needle larger than your hand, or watch that same child die.

Grief is hard.


September is hard- because it reminds me of the almost 4 years of absolute HELL that my family and I lived through. The funny thing is I cry more tears wishing he was still in the hospital, rather than crying tears cause he’s dead. My selfish heart wants him here, but my realistic brain knows he would not be the Cooper he was before he was sick.

So, instead of being an advocate for the children currently fighting childhood cancer, the children that are about to receive that diagnosis, or the children who are about to die from childhood cancer.
I wish to be an advocate for all of you who are not going to be affected by childhood cancer, who are not going to hear the words “Your son has Leukemia” or “Your daughter has a Glioblastoma brain tumor.”
I wish to be an advocate for all the people who will not hear those words because I want to remind you of the things that you are privileged to do with your children, siblings, mothers, and fathers each day that we who are grieving the loss of someone we love, cannot do.

You don’t have to say ‘I love you’, but you get too.
You don’t have to give your child a hug, but you get too.
You don’t have to put your phone down to listen to your babies stories, but you get too.
You don’t have to tickle your little one’s back, but you get too.
You don’t have to take them to all the sports and dance classes they want to go too, but you get too.
You don’t have to spend time taking them to the park or on vacation, but you get too.
You don’t have to kiss them goodnight even when they made you crazy that night, but you get too.
You don’t have to feel blessed by your healthy family every day, but you get too.

You see where I am going with this.
Every thing is a choice- you don’t have to do anything in this world, you GET to do every thing in this world.
Including loving your people.

Friends, Love them well because tomorrow is not promised.
As today ends Childhood Cancer Awareness Month- tomorrow marks the 2nd anniversary of the Las Vegas Mass Shooting, where my sister and I ran for our lives.
I cannot imagine what tomorrow would look like if my parents went from losing one child, to three children in the matter of seconds.
I know for a fact my brother spared our lives, I know he was there holding Julia and I as we ran.

Grief is hard.

It comes in many forms, alive or dead.
So today, tomorrow, and always- love your people well because today you GET too.
Tomorrow you might not.