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Love yourself first

Love yourself first.
Above all, love yourself.
Even through insecurities, love yourself first.

I’ve struggled with acne for as long as I can remember. Besides the painful bumps that erupt on your face, the mental battle that acne brings is agonizing. Acne is a physical condition, but creates an emotional toll beyond words. It questions your worth, your ability to be loved. It makes you wonder why you’re on earth, if only to look so hideous behind something so beautiful.

I’ve grown to accept that some people battle acne, while others battle their weight, and others battle their relationship with food. All of us are fighting our own self worth battles. Just trying to make it to the other side unscathed from our own worst enemy, ourselves.

Learning to love yourself is the only way out of the vicious cycle of self hate. Love drives out hate. You have to learn to fill your mind with love instead of the destructive thoughts that come with insecurities. You have to drown yourself with love to empty out the hate. And believe me, it’s not going to be easy, loving yourself first never is.

When I am really struggling with my acne or mental health, my therapist always tells me to start simple. Don’t go all in to the personal development podcasts, books, videos. Why not just try to drink one glass of water? That is more beneficial to your body that overwhelming yourself with words your brain can’t take in that moment.

So lets love ourselves in the simple ways. Lets do the little things that add up to loving ourselves well.

Lets…
Drink some water.
SLEEP, maybe even take a nap.
Remember to eat throughout the day.
Take a shower, sometimes if you don’t have the energy to wash- just rinse. Just lay under the water and let it fall onto your silky skin.
Brush those teeth. You deserve a clean, beautiful smile.
Write three things your grateful for, no more, no less. Just three.

By loving yourself first you’ll be able to love your people better. Your cup has to be full before you can attempt to fill someone else’s. I’ve learned this the hard way over and over again.

Love yourself first, then love and be loved.

The sun will rise again.

Love your Internet bestie,

Kass

Naples Illustrated Magazine

Gracious & Grateful is honored to have been apart of the September 2020 Issue of Naples Illustrated Magazine. “Meet our 5 under 35 who are making a difference with hard work and Naples love.”

As a Naples local this is a great honor! I am so grateful to have been chosen for this issue of Naples Illustrated. I want nothing more than to be a light for everyone around me. My world has been dark, but there were always people lighting the way for me. People through my brother’s cancer diagnosis and people through the Vegas shooting. I would have never made it this far without my lights, I am grateful for each and every one of you. You are why I am who I am today. Grateful is an understatement.

Gracious & Grateful is meant to be a space of light, that’s why our logo is the sun. When you read the words I write I want you to feel love, hope, and feel inspired to give light throughout your day. To be the sun in a dark world. To remember your light never dims. I am honored God gave me this mission and not a day goes by that I don’t thank him for Gracious & Grateful.

I would like to take a second to recognize the brilliant minds behind the Naples Illustrated September 2020 Issue. Christina Cush, Editor in Chief of Naples Illustrated Magazine. Thank you for believing in my mission and writing the most beautiful, poised article about my life and personal work.
To Michael Caronchi of Caronchi Photography, the photographer behind the September 2020 Issue of Naples Illustrated, thank you for making me feel beautiful while hyping me up behind the camera. Your talent is endless and I hope to work with you again in the future, thank you for your time and energy. A big thank you to all who worked behind the scenes of the 2020 September Issue of Naples Illustrated Magazine, I am eternally grateful for your hard work!

The last thank you goes out to all of you, my Gracious & Grateful readers and subscribers. You have made this blog what it is and for that I am GRATEFUL. You’re support means the world and keeps me going. I will never be able to thank you enough for loving on me and my blog.

Remember, the sun will rise again.

Love your Internet bestie,

Kass

It’s not personal

Do you ever catch yourself reacting to something in a not so lovely way? Specifically something someone has said to you? Suddenly your chest is tight, you feel inferior, and the world is ending. All over something you’re probably taking to personally.

Yep, I went there.
99% of the time we are taking things too personal and in return reacting negatively.

Lately when I start to notice myself reacting negatively to something someone has said to me or texted me, I do my best to stop myself and ask one question. Am I taking this personally? The answer is almost always yes, and from there I evaluate if it is actually personal.
Is what they said really about me? Or am I making it about me?

Humans are selfish beings. We are constantly focused on keeping ourselves alive, and it’s necessary, without putting our oxygen mask on first we would never get the opportunity to save the person next to us. But because we are selfish we tend to forget that not everything is about us. Other people’s intentions are not always to go against us and make us feel bad. Most of the time we are just reading the message wrong, or taking it the way we hear the message– not the way the person meant it to be.

It’s not personal.
Whatever the text said that you are looming over like its the last day on earth- it’s not personal.
Whatever your boss told you that disrupted your day- it’s not personal.
Whatever you thought your best friend meant by saying your butt looked fat in those jeans- eh, that might be personal but bottom line she may be just as insecure about her butt in her own jeans!
It’s not personal.
Stop taking everything so personal.

And while I’m on my soap box- stop assuming everyone is against you!
Friends, don’t you believe in humanity? That maybe a small percentage of people on this earth are actually FOR you and not against you?
From now on, I’m going to assume every single person I interact with is on my side. They like me, they think I am the most awesome person on the planet. And until they tell me otherwise- they love me.

How would it change the current state of our world if we believed other people liked us? How often, especially as women, do we immediately assume someone hates us? Be it a fellow girl or the guy at work we have a crush on but continue to say something like, “He’ll probably never like me.” GIRLFRIEND, what if he already does? You’re not even giving him the benefit of the doubt because you’re so consumed with the fact you think people don’t like you.
Get off your high horse.
People like you but you don’t give them the chance to.

Friends, it’s not personal and not everyone is against you.
Start to ask yourself when you react, am I taking this personally?
If you are taking something personally, take a step back and evaluate why- because that’s on you and not the other person. Take some ownership before starting down a road neither of you wants to head down.
And give people the benefit of the doubt, I know it may seem like the world is against itself right now, but you’d be surprised what people do when you decide to give them a chance.

In the words of the very millennial (but not better than) version of Grease, We’re all in this together (High School Musical).
Remember, tomorrow is just another version of today but brighter.

The sun will rise again.

Love your internet bestie,

Kass

Why you should shop small

I’m not sure what to address first, the fact I found the only phone booth in Naples Florida or the fact that this outfit is absolute PERFECTION!
For those local content creators who are dying to use a phone booth for the perfect shot, you have to check out Lake Park Diner!

I’m going to do my best to link this outfit- although most of the pieces are from way back!!! Except for this gorgeous leopard print skirt that you know is from Gracious & Grateful The Shop! If you haven’t got to shopping- you need too!


Here’s a couple reasons why you should shop small this holiday season:

  • You are supporting small businesses! Small businesses = Big Dreamers trying to achieve even BIGGER goals!
  • YOU are making an impact- with your purchase, you’re allowing me to grow my business which allows you to get more of a say in what products I put in the shop!
  • You make my heart happy- By supporting my small business, you’re actually supporting a big dream of Kassidy’s. You shopping at Gracious & Grateful The Shop is so much more than a simple check out process. Every time I see a new sale come through, I see my dream growing right in front of my eyes, which would never be able to happen without support from YOU!

Panama Hat

Casual Slip Style Skirt

Slip on Mules

Photographer – @piperariellephotography

*Please be advised that Gracious & Grateful The Shop has a shipment duration of about 2 weeks. To make sure your packages arrive on time please account for the shipping time*